Starting week 3 of bedrest

My friend, Becky, came on Monday. She brought her kids and her mother. The kids played while Becky and her mom, kept me company, vacuumed, dusted, cleaned the bathroom, did the laundry and cooked for us. I was really blown away at her generosity and she has volunteered to do this on Mondays until I’m done with bedrest. Wow!
Yesterday, Julie and Jaron stopped by in the afternoon and brought some goodies and kept me company for awhile. Seeing and interacting with people has lifted my spirits considerably. Thank you friends!

I’m at about the same place in this pregnancy that I was when I went on bedrest with Audrey. If I can last a little over a week, I think I would be far enough along that if I went into labor that I could deliver in Waconia instead of Minneapolis.

I have times where I feel confident that bedrest is going well and that I’m going to make until my doctor “releases” me. Other times I feel overwhelmed and anxious.

We’re surviving. Thanks for your continued prayers.

Sunday

Nathan and the kids went to church today.I miss going. We were gone for Easter and I’ve missed two other Sundays now. I’ll miss at least 3 more. That’s 6 Sundays.

I received a comment on Facebook today about how bedrest sounded good to her. I wonder how many people who know I’m on bedrest are equally clueless. Maybe an explanation of what it’s really like would be helpful.

This is what bedrest is like for me:
I need to spend most of my day lying on my side- not my back or my tummy. I am on my side for about 22 out of every 24 hours.
If I’m not on my side, I need to be reclined at least 45 degrees.
Sitting upright in bed or on the couch with my feet up isn’t much of an option since it doesn’t reduce the pressure on my cervix.
Try it for a while. See how many things you can do while lying flat on your side.
Try it with the knowledge that the health of your baby depends on this working and how well you can stick with it.
Imagine doing it while you watch your husband juggle a full-time job and then come home to take care of all the household and parenting things.
Imagine hearing your kids cry and not really being able to do anything about it.
Imagine only leaving your house for doctor appointments.

This isn’t a vacation. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done physically and emotionally. It’s not just boring. It’s lonely and uncomfortable and terrifying.

32 Weeks on Friday

One more week down!

According to the Babycenter site:

How your baby’s growing:
By now, your baby weighs 3.75 pounds (pick up a large jicama) and is about 16.7 inches long, taking up a lot of space in your uterus. You’re gaining about a pound a week and roughly half of that goes right to your baby. In fact, she’ll gain a third to half of her birth weight during the next 7 weeks as she fattens up for survival outside the womb. She now has toenails, fingernails, and real hair (or at least respectable peach fuzz.

Except our baby isn’t a “she”. And I’m happy to report that Nathan and I are in agreement on a name. We were in agreement earlier, but then I changed my mind. Harmony exists again and I am happy with the outcome.

Still experiencing long lonely days, discomfort from lying in my side and missing being able to really do mom stuff for my children,

Lastly, I love my first born son! Ethan turned 4 yesterday. I can’t believe it has been 4 years!

The Tale of Wednesday

Yesterday was a rough day. Baby had been really moving the night before. I was so uncomfortable that I had a very hard time sleeping. By the time morning came, the baby felt really low.

My dad was here watching the kids. It was nice to know they were in good hands. They had a great time. I just just camped out in our room for most of the day. The bed was easier on my joints than the couch. The pressure on my hips is causing quite a bit of pain. Please pray that I’ll have some relief.

Anxiety as really getting the better of me yesterday, too. There is nothing like lying around with nothing to distract me to make me even more hyper-aware of every little thing I’m feeling. And, of course I would have to be dealing with random contractions.

To finish up our day,Audrey got sick. We heard her crying and Nathan went in her room to discover that she had gotten sick all over. He had to clean all of that up, give Audrey a bath, get her dressed again and console her all by himself. Audrey was crying for me and there was nothing I could do. What an awful feeling.

She still has a fever this morning. Luckily, Nathan was already planning to be home today. On a positive note, I’m feeling a bit better today. We really appreciate the prayers and encouragement.

Doctor Appointment Update

Once again I had to have my blood pressure taken a couple of times and work hard to think happy thoughts! My anxiety level when arriving at the clinic was kind of high impacting the readings. Happy thoughts brought it down to acceptable levels!

No weight gain this week. I actually lost a couple of pounds. I’m sure that will be right back up again at my next appointment thanks to Sara’s chocolate cake and desserts from Erica (multiple yummy things!). Thank you Lord that I don’t have gestational diabetes!

Because my fFn was negative just 4 days ago, she decided not to do another one today. My belly measured between 29 and 30. They like to see that within 2 of the number of weeks you are pregnant So, no worries there.This can also read lower if your baby had “dropped”. The heart rated was in the 150’s (good). And, because she could tell by poking around externally that I wasn’t carrying as low as I was last week, she didn’t do an internal exam this time. Did you get that? The baby isn’t as low! That’s fabulous and I can certainly feel a difference from last week. A week ago, I had this sensation that made me fear if I moved the wrong way the baby would be born right here in our home. I don’t feel that way right now. That’s a great answer to prayer.

Unfortunately, regardless of whether we get good or bad news, that doesn’t change the fact that I’m going to be on bedrest. Good news just means that what I’m doing is working.

Ethan had his stitches taken out today. He’s healing quickly!

How you can pray:
That I wouldn’t get depressed dealing with the monotony and discomfort of bedrest.
For Ethan and Audrey to adapt well to the upheaval that they are experiencing in their daily routines,
That Ethan would have a fabulous day on Friday- His 4th Birthday!
For Nathan to not be overwhelmed with juggling family, household responsibilities and work.
That our baby would continue grow and that he would be healthy and not arrive too early.

One week down. 4 to go?

If I stay on bedrest until 36 weeks that will translate to approximately 5 weeks. That’s 35 days. 35 days sounds like a lot of days to be lying on my bed or couch. The reason it sounds so long is that it actually is A VERY LONG TIME.
I’ve been feeling lonely and emotional today. Going through something like this is an eye-opening experience. I could elaborate, but I’m too tired and I don’t think things would come out clearly.

How we spent our Saturday

I woke up so rested yesterday. I felt so much better than I had the past couple of days- emotionally and physically. I wasn’t feeling anywhere near as much pressure as I had been feeling before, my hips didn’t hurt from lying down and, to top it off, Nathan bought some yummy donuts and a cheesecake breakfast danish/loaf.

My amazing and fabulous husband had stayed up cleaning and doing laundry the last two nights so the house looked great. Only one room left to clean. Nathan is great. I need to find a way to give him a break one of these evenings.

The kids played with chalk outside, then they built with tools, and then Ethan played Lego Star Wars. I had missed them on Friday and was happy they were home. In the afternoon, Sara came and kept me company. She brought with her a yummy meal complete with a delicious chocolate cake. Baby loves the cake! He moves a lot after I eat some!

You’ll be happy to hear that I drank at least 80 oz. yesterday. I can see my veins! Yeah.
According to the babycenter website:

How your baby’s growing:
This week, your baby measures over 16 inches long. He weighs about 3.3 pounds (try carrying four navel oranges) and is heading into a growth spurt. He can turn his head from side to side, and his arms, legs, and body are beginning to plump out as needed fat accumulates underneath his skin. He’s probably moving a lot, too, so you may have trouble sleeping because your baby’s kicks and somersaults keep you up.

31 weeks, 1 day

I’m so glad to still be pregnant! My dad keeps reminding me that every day is a victory. It really is. For every day this little one holds off being born, he probably shaves off several more days he would have to be in the hospital as a preemie.

Yesterday was exciting! It was my first day on bedrest that I was home alone. I was feeling more tightening in my tummy and my back was hurting. Nathan dropped the kids off at Marie’s and then came home to switch vehicles and make sure I was alright.

I started to feel better shortly after he left. I filled my time with reading, spending time online, napping, watching som TV and talking on the phone. At about 4:00 I started to feel more discomfort and tightening againg. I started timing it and when Nathan got home I decided we should head to Ridgeview to be checked out. I knew that I wouldn’t be able to relax until I kneew that i was alright.

We headed to Waconia, but a few miles down the road, I changed my mind so we came home. I laid down for a while and timed the contractions I had 4 in 40 minutes and I had a few earlier so we decided we really should get checked out.

We got to the hospital, I was checked in and had paperwork done by one nurse and then the nurse who was going to be staying on duty took over. She walked in with a cup of water, introduced herself and tripped and spilled water all over my feet at the bottom of the bed. Oops I felt really bad for her. I’m beginning to think this is a bad sign for me. I had a waiter dump a pitcher of water on me several weeks before I had Ethan!

After monitoring me for a while and changing the position of the monitoring belts, the contractions picked up again. I wasn’t happy to be contracting, but I was glad to see it wasn’t in my head. With that news, the on-call doctor said to do the fFn test, an internal exam to check dilation and take a urine sample.

The fFn came back negative which is fabulous! Most women with a negative result wont deliver in the next 2 weeks. I was still at 1 cm. That’s no change from Tuesday. However, I was very dehydrated. I had thought I was doing a decent job at drinking enough, but she said I was at the level where they admit pregnant women who come in because they have been unable to keep much food or drink down for a while. They give them IV fluids to get their levels more normal and then send them home. So, she told me that I need to be chugging more water. Dehydration is something that can cause contractions.

I think we have met our insurance deductible for the year!

That’s where we are at. 3 days until my next OB apt.

Bedrest- Day 2? Day 3?

Well, I’ve lasted over 2 days since my doctor appointment. Every single day is worth so much right now. I have to admit that I’m feeling anxious. This just seems so similar to when I had Ethan.

I’m thankful that we have child care figured out for the next two weeks. I’m so grateful for all that Nathan is doing to keep things running smoothly here.

I’m just feeling scared and uncertain.

Ethan ran into his door yesterday morning. He got out of bed so quickly and he wasn’t watching where he was going and he hurt himself. He had to get 3 stitches. He handled it well though! The kids have enjoyed having Nathan home for the last two days.

Please keep praying. Pray that my body will hold this little one inside, that I would not be anxious, and that I would know what I should or shouldn’t be doing. Pray that the days would go by quickly!